That moment when you realize that you have said something you always heard your mother tell you, is priceless indeed. You spend your childhood and teens, and older ages until you have your own children, swearing that you’d never do this or do that when you had kids because your mom did it. So when this moment occurs it can be both shocking and somewhat overwhelming.
But relax a little bit. This is the first of many times you’ll catch yourself saying all of those things you heard your mom say and swore you’d never say it yourself. Rest assured, it happens to the best of us. Is it really that bad to sound just like your mom? Obviously she did a good job with you and influenced you enough to repeat what she said to your own bundles of joy.
I often find myself telling my kids “because I said so” as the answer to their most annoying battles and questions. I know that all of those precious books tell us not to use this as an answer, and my mom said it so much it made me mad enough to say I’d never do it. Yet I find it provides me with a sense of well-being and authority when my children are working on what’s left of that let nerve. I say it a lot. And it ends those battles. Because I said so is like the ‘final warning’ when mom is saying it.
“If your friends jumped off of a cliff would you do it to?” I am notorious for this one and my 16-year old replies with the typical 16-year old answer, “Yep.” My mom said it and it didn’t work either. I said I wouldn’t say it, but it is so irresistible to say sometimes.
Dinner time is a constant battle with my picky 10-year old who will refuse a burger because it has cheese (although any other time he loves it) and eat a taco with nothing but meat and shell. I tell him that there are starving kids in Africa who would love to have the food that he is wasting. Again something my mom always said to me that I hated with a passion. It is a guilt trip indeed, but as a mom I can say it is so frustrating trying to cook (or dine out for that matter) for someone so picky.
“I’m not your maid.” Man, if I had a quarter for every time that I have heard and said this one. My kids leave messes behind everywhere that they go and I eagerly tell them I am not paid to clean up after them.
So maybe turning out like mom isn’t so bad after all. Do you say any of these things, or others, that your mom used to say to you as a child?