Individuals who choose to adopt are opening their hearts to a child who desperately needed their love and care. People adopt for many reasons, but regardless they’re certainly making a major impact on the world with this decision. Adoptive parents welcome their new child with open arms and eagerly look for the same excitement and compassion from their family and friends. Likewise they don’t expect crude comments from strangers. Adopting isn’t any different than having a baby naturally. A new baby has entered into the world that needs love and care, whether your own or an adoptive child.
If you want to avoid uncomfortable situations with an adoptive parent, take a look at these seven things that you should never say or ask. These are things that are unnecessary and rude and best left to ponder in your mind if you really want to know.
1. How much did your baby cost? Adoptive parents endure a variety of costs in their quest to become parents, but this doesn’t mean they want people to consider their baby one that was purchased. If you have questions about the cost of adoption there is a better way to ask. Avoid this question at all costs.
2. When do you get your baby? This seemingly harmless question could mean more than what you realize to a person or couple who craves having a child of their own who is going through the adoption process.
3. Now you will get pregnant. You never know another person’s situation regarding getting pregnant, so leave this statement to yourself. Odds are, a pregnancy would be very much welcomed, even if after adoption.
4. Why didn’t you adopt locally? If a couple has chosen international adoption they have done so due to reasons that they know. It is none of your concern why they chose to adopt the child they chose and you shouldn’t intrude by asking such a personal question.
5. Why couldn’t you have a baby? People choose to adopt for many reasons. Sometimes it is due to the inability to have children of their own but this is not always the case since there are many reasons why one would choose adoption. Again this is a personal question that really isn’t information for you to know unless it is voluntarily given.
6. Can you really love the child? Whether a child born to the couple or one that has been adopted, a parent always has unconditional love for that child. This is yet another question not to ask!
7. What Happened with the real parents? Adoptive parents are the real parents now and they certainly do not want this question asked of them. Just as there are many reasons for a person to adopt, there are many reasons why adoption is chosen for the birth parent. Never assume!